choose becoming – personal development blog

We give and take

The other day I had a real conversation with my 9-year-old daughter. “I am very sad, mummy…”. “What happened, dear?”, I asked. “Alice wasn’t nice to me today. She was laughing at me when I was crying at school. Why didn’t she want to cheer me up? And this is...

They see me

The other day I was with my little daughter watching a live music show for kids. We had good fun. Everyone was watching what was happening on the stage. In one moment, the artists invited kids to step on the stage to dance together. I said to my girl, “Go,...

Standing in our own way

I had that meeting. I was on a spot. The stakes were high. I really wanted to do my best. I worked hard to prepare for that moment. It was supposed to be perfect. But then something happened. I lost my confidence. I wanted to disappear, run away, and turn...

Chasing after praise

The other day I had an important presentation in front of a big audience, I knew my stuff, I had worked very hard on the content, I was ready. I went to the stage and I did it. I thought I had done a good job, my very best. Few...

Saying “no”

The other day I was there with my friend. Someone asked her to do something. I knew she had different plans important to her. “Can you stay a little longer and we will discuss it?”. She said, “No. I can’t…”. I observed her in that moment. There was something about that “no”....

Be brave, be vulnerable

The other day I was walking preparing for the session for the team I was about to facilitate. I was in the room already. The session was about to start in a minute. I had my agenda and I had clarity on what my purpose was. I felt prepared for...

Better than yesterday

Sometimes we struggle with new things. We struggle learning new stuff or trying to improve in different areas. And we create stories in our mind about ourselves and what we try to achieve. Some of those stories pull us down. Have you ever made up those stories or heard them from...

What does it tell about me?

Two people. They meet. Whatever one person does, it lands somehow in the other one. And it might not be a big deal and mean literally nothing. Or it could land very deep inside. Here’s the thing. We influence one another. It is like an emotional ping-pong. Someone says something...

My ‘here’ and your ‘there’

My little daughter was playing in a living room downstairs. My son was shouting sitting upstairs wanting something from her. Radio was on. She said she couldn’t hear him. He was getting frustrated and kept on shouting. Finally, he run downstairs. She was playing. She had her stuff. Sure thing!...

Can I tell you what I see?

How often do you hear a question, ‘Can I share my feedback with you?’. There is so much power in that question. It might open a meaningful discussion and shake a part of you. I have been there. In a moment when that question was a real spark for change. Have...